Unlike what Rachel from the show “Friends” said, ED is quite common, it can happen to any guy, and it’s not really a big deal. Erectile dysfunction is defined medically to be a struggle to get or to keep an erection long enough to have satisfactory intercourse. The issue with this medical problem is how it’s associated with embarrassment and shame. You won’t find many guys who would like to admit that they have had the occasional letdown, or that they are facing some serious issues in the bedroom. This leads to even worse problems such as undiagnosed underlying health conditions, slow progress in this particular medication field, and painful problems with your sex life. ED will not necessarily ruin your relationship, the lack of communication, on the other hand, will most definitely will. The first step to fix this problem is seeking the right diagnosis that will put your feet on the first step of treatment. To make this article more organized, we will discuss causes, treatments, and even some natural remedies that you can follow.
The Psychological Struggles
Ed isn’t necessarily a physical problem that can’t be solved. There are many reasons and causes to why you could be facing some troubles in the bedroom; stress and anxiety are definitely the first two on this list. Your problem could be purely psychological, to the extent that studies nowadays proved that African Americans are more likely to suffer from this condition compared to other races. Why? The stigma around how black men are “big” and they can perform better in bed, has led many African Americans to struggle with performance anxiety compared to any other race. Once again, racial stigmas have proven their toxicity.
Anxiety isn’t the only psychological reason behind erectile dysfunction, sometimes with all the stress we get exposed to in our lives, our sexual desires could decrease or even become non-existent. Avoided emotional problems and suppressed negative feelings can find their way to show up in our bedroom, despite all the effort we exerted to bury them deep down.
The Only logical step after discovering your emotional distress, is to schedule an appointment with your psychiatrist in order for them to start the treatment. The doctor might choose psychotherapy over medications until they are 100% sure of the right diagnosis. Some doctors prefer to test out placebo effects on the patient to ensure that the problem is purely psychological.
Occasional problems in the bedrooms can happen for so many reasons; maybe you have had too much to drink, maybe you are a smoker, or you never exercise. However, the main physical reason lies in the decrease of blood flow in the penis to get an erection or having troubles trapping the blood to be able to keep the erection. Erectile dysfunction is expected to become more common with age from the age of 50 or more, however, this problem has been getting more popular among younger men. This is caused mainly because of the unhealthy lifestyles we are leading; obesity, alcoholism, or other bad habits can lead to many sexual, physical, and emotional problems. ED can be a sign of more serious health problems such as having high blood pressure, high blood sugar, high cholesterol, or heart problems. Or, simply the problem could be happening as a side effect of a certain medication.
Leading a healthier lifestyle will definitely help you with increasing your stamina and it can decrease or even solve any sex problem you might be having. A simple step such as cutting off processed red meat can do wonders and you can see the results in less than 10 days. You could also try out different diets until you find the right one that suits you and your lifestyle. If the issue proves to be chronic and unshakeable after you have tried to change your bad habit, then consulting a doctor is a must at this stage. Some of the ways that have been proven to be effective are:
- Pelvic Floor Exercises: You might want to start doing some Kegel exercises, it’s best to start with one or two sets daily for at least 3 months to see good results. Kegel exercises will give you a stronger pelvic floor, this is ensured to give you better and longer erections. Some even associate Kegel exercises with lasting longer in bed.
- Prescription ED drugs: Substances such as Sildenafil or Tadalafil are used to treat ED. Not only do they help in giving longer and stronger erections, but these medications can also decrease your refractory period for a shorter gap between your steamy sessions. One pill that keeps popping everywhere recently is called blue chew which gives you the option to choose between Sildenafil or Tadalafil, you can check out their post to find out which active ingredient will help you best. It’s always better to consult your GP on what they think is better for you. Sometimes you can try yourself to decide between what you think is helping you more with the problems you are suffering from.
- Pomegranate juice: Even though there isn’t any actual proof that drinking antioxidant-rich pomegranate juice will help with ED, it has been passed down generations as a natural remedy. It’s claimed that pomegranate juice will make ED disappear in a matter of a couple of months. There was one small-scale study that showed promising results back in 2007, but it needed to be applied on larger scales to prove anything. However, even if pomegranate juice doesn’t help with ED, it has other health benefits such as reducing the risk of getting many cardiovascular problems.
Save Your Relationship
Communication is key. You need to talk to your partner about what has been bothering you, your fears, and all your insecurities in order to work your way together to be able to solve this issue. You may be suffering, but your partner could suffer too if you left them in the dark. They may start believing that you are not interested in them sexually anymore, they may have doubts that you might be having an affair, or they may think that you just don’t love them anymore. Besides assuring your partner, you can always consider couple therapy to have a better understanding of your relationship dynamic and the ultimate ways to help it.