We’ve all been there. You come home from a long day at work, completely exhausted, only to find that your partner has forgotten to put down the toilet seat. It’s frustrating, and can even feel like a personal attack. But before you start asking your partner why they forgot, consider this: it’s not helpful, and there are better ways to handle the situation.
Whenever my husband asks me why I forgot something, I tell him that I forgot because I didn’t remember. It’s the truth! If we can’t remember to do something, it’s not because we’re trying to be forgetful, it’s because we simply forgot. And when we’re already feeling guilty about forgetting, the last thing we need is to be berated for it.
Instead of asking your partner why they forgot, try one of these approaches:
- Thank them for doing what they could.
- Remind them gently, without sounding accusatory.
- Help them remember by setting a reminder on their phone or calendar.
- Do it yourself, with a smile on your face.
- Let it go and move on.
When your partner forgets to do something, it’s easy to feel like they don’t care about you or your needs. But the truth is, we all forget things from time to time. It’s human nature. And while it may be annoying when your partner forgets to put down the toilet seat, it’s important to remember that it’s not a personal attack.
It’s often not because they’re being lazy either. Sometimes, people just forget.
If you find yourself getting frustrated with your partner for forgetting things, try to take a step back and remember that everyone makes mistakes. We’re all human, after all. Instead of asking them why they forgot, try one of the approaches I suggested above.
When you criticize someone else, take a look in the mirror first
The things we criticize about our partners are often a reflection of our own insecurities. If you’re constantly criticizing your partner for forgetting things, it might be because you’re afraid of being forgotten yourself.
We all want to feel important and loved, and it can be scary to think that we might not be. But the truth is, we all have moments where we forget things. It doesn’t mean that we don’t care about the people in our lives.
If you find yourself getting upset with your partner for forgetting things, try to take a step back and examine your own feelings. Are you feeling insecure? Anxious? Afraid? Once you identify how you’re feeling, you can start to work on addressing those feelings.
And remember, it’s okay to ask for help. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or like you can’t handle everything on your own, reach out to a friend or family member. They’ll be more than happy to help you out!
Why don’t you work on improving your own memory?
There’s no denying that forgetting things can be annoying. But instead of getting upset with your partner for forgetting things, why not work on improving your own memory?
There are some ways you can do this, but one of the best is to keep a journal. Every time your partner forgets something, write it down in your journal.
Here are a few tips to have an easier time remembering things:
- Put it in writing
- Create a routine
- Associate it with a place or thing
- Repeat it out loud
- Set a reminder
If you find yourself forgetting things often, try implementing some of these tips. You might be surprised at how well they work! And who knows, maybe your partner will start asking you for advice on how to improve their memory!
It’s natural to forget things from time to time, and when our partner does something that we find irritating or bothersome, it’s easy to lash out. But before we do that, it’s important to remember that everyone makes mistakes. We’re all human, after all.
That’s what I think, but what do you think? Let me know in the comments below!