From watching VR porn videos to making dirty talk dirtier and from dimming the lights to spritzing special perfume, there are endless ways to boost your confidence levels in the bedroom.
If you are not the most confident person when it comes to sex, don’t fret. Many people often feel shy, or sometimes, find it hard to open up their sexuality for anybody because of the fear of rejection. So, it is completely normal. The trick is to understand yourself and your comfort level, and then stretch your limit out a little bit – and you’ll be good to go.
Although it can be hard to transform from a reserved lady to sexual goddess overnight, some little adjustments here and there can make a whole lot of difference. After all, it is not the big acts that count; it is the little things that help you become self-assured.
Here is how to boost your confidence in the bedroom
Immerse yourself in the act
If you find it absolutely difficult to get yourself in the mood for crazy, then a little inspiration can help do the trick for you. Visit a virtual reality porn site and immerse yourself into the 360-degree experience of sexual pleasure. Here, you’ll get to see how the porn stars carry themselves and handle their man. You don’t have to copy everything they are doing. As stated earlier on, a little tweak is all it takes.
Focus on what you are feeling
Negative self-talk or self-image only leads to more insecurity about yourself. So, instead of trying to imagine how bad your body blemishes look or how poor your performance is, focus on how good the sex makes you feel. Ideally, you want to train your mind to stay in the present and have a better connection with your partner. So, whenever you find your thoughts wandering away from the action, go back to your breath and just let yourself enjoy the moment. If it’s any consolation, your blemishes might not be as bad as you imagine, and are only ruining your good time.
Remember, your partner chose you
If you are feeling less confident in front of your partner, remind yourself that they chose you – often because they find you attractive. Unlike what you see on the media, men have different preferences and tastes, and obviously, you are his. And that’s all that matters.
Masturbation is the best way to learn about your body, and what it takes to reach orgasm. Knowing the mental processes and physical sensations that you need to get off will definitely make you confident in bed.
Get into character
Think out of the ordinary and play an entirely new person whose sexiness you want to copy, like a music star and how they dress and so on. This allows you to channel the sexual spirit animal that helps you get into character and cover any insecurity from your normal personality.
Make dirty talk dirtier
This is easier than you imagine – you can use your finger to trace a word on your man’s body – like “handjob” or “kiss” – and have them guess. If they get it right, follow through. And if they get it wrong – well, be creative. It will help ease any tension and get you into the act.