You may not be the most confident guy on the planet but don’t let that put you off trying to find that someone special. Most times, confidence and personality will win over looks. Here are some tips for attracting women even if you may think they are out of your league.
Don’t use terrible pick-up lines: The important thing to remember here is never be tempted to use cheesy pick-up lines, even if you’re trying to be funny. No woman will appreciate them, let alone find them particularly humorous. What you need are a few genuine lines that with pique her curiosity and make her want to know more about you.
Take cues from your social situation: Where you are will, of course, affect the type of introduction you use so bear in mind your situation and environment and always use it for cues to start a conversation. For example, if you’re at a party you could ask her how she knows the host, if you’re in a bookstore you could ask her what she likes to read. Don’t forget to offer her some information about yourself too so you don’t come across as a stalker.
Make friends with her friends: If she’s with her friends introduce yourself to them first and work your way around to the woman you really want to meet. That way she can watch you with her friends before you home in on her and they won’t feel left out.
Make the most of every opportunity: Don’t be afraid to talk to women in all walks of your life from the shop assistant to the old lady next door. Once you feel comfortable with this you won’t have to worry about contrived introductions and pick-up lines, you can just be yourself.
Always be honest: Don’t try to pretend you are something you’re not, she won’t fall for it and you’ll end up looking like a fool. What she will appreciate is your honesty. Be genuine and just show her who you really are. If that doesn’t work, don’t take it personally; find someone else to talk to.
Build your confidence: If you lack confidence in your appearance you may want to consider making some changes. Perhaps you need to get more exercise, a change of wardrobe or a new hairstyle. If you are self-conscious of your hair loss, there are solutions, such as those provided by The Canadian Hair Transplant Centre. Remember there’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance so don’t overdo it. A confident and assertive man is very sexy, but an arrogant and aggressive man is a real turn off. Don’t try too hard, believe in yourself and act naturally.
What not to do: Don’t fall into the trap of the following mistakes:
- Don’t try and force yourself on someone who does not want to be approached
- Don’t lie
- Don’t put yourself in a situation you’re not comfortable with
- Don’t use cheesy pick-up lines
- Don’t be arrogant or rude
- Don’t rule out meeting women in unusual places
What you should do: Make these your basic rules for attracting a woman:
- Do be friendly and genuine
- Do keep conversation light and try to make her laugh
- Be interested in her personally
- Listen attentively when she is talking to you
Share with her: Ask her questions about herself and share some personal information about yourself with her. This will help her to relax and show her that you’re not just looking for sex.
Use your sense of humor: If you don’t have much of a sense of humor then it’s time to develop one. Women like men who can make them laugh. If you don’t feel very confident, practice with a few close friends. If you’re boring them senseless then obviously you need to change your approach, but if they’re cracking up with laughter, you’ve hit the right spot.
Make your first date one to remember: While you don’t have to fly her to Paris on the first date, if you want to keep a classy woman then a trip to Burger King just isn’t going to cut it. Dinner at a quality restaurant or an outing to something a little out of the ordinary will stand you in good stead.
Keep searching for that someone special. Don’t be afraid of rejection. It happens to everyone from time to time. Don’t take it personally and don’t let it knock your confidence. It doesn’t mean you’re any less of a man, just that this woman is not the one for you, so move along and find a new woman to talk to.
Kyle Cameron writes a variety of articles aimed at boosting confidence in the men that need it, and not in the ones who already have plenty!! His informative and sometimes humorous articles appear on a range of men’s lifestyle blogs.