So you’ve decided you’re finally ready to take the leap into the world of online dating. Your friends have badgered you enough to push you over the edge, but you’re not quite sure where to start for the best possible exposure. I’m frequently asked what is the best site to use for online dating and you may not like what I have to tell you.
There are literally hundreds if not thousands of sites out there offering every imaginable feature and every specific kind of woman you could ever desire. It can be intimidating to sift through all of the options, but the best way to approach it is to ask your friends in your immediate geography what they use and what they like about it. This is key because Match.com in Cleveland, OH, may have a different caliber of women than those playing the online dating game in New York, NY on Hily.
The Coke and Pepsi of the online dating world are Match.com and eHarmony. Both have a long litany of success stories and more than enough quality users to meet anyone’s requirement. The key differentiating aspect that makes me prefer Match.com to eHarmony is that Match.com lets you choose who you contact while eHarmony restricts your view to only those that eHarmony pre-selects. eHarmony can feel like that overbearing parent that thinks they know what’s best for you.
In my opinion, one of the best attributes to dating online is the ability to screen for yourself and reach out to whomever you like. I like controlling my fate and don’t put a whole lot of credence in those match compatibility percentages/algorithms that are popular on most sites. I’m a Match.com fan and have developed multiple long term relationships with high quality beautiful women there. [It should be noted that I’m not paid by any online dating site and have clients that use Match.com and eHarmony as well as other online dating sites.]
The reality is that it’s not as important where you online date as much as how you approach your online dating process. Just as in life, there are amazing women and horrific nightmarish women on every site out there. What you really want to make sure of is that you are approaching the process with the right mindset and tools to be successful online. You could go to a classy pool party loaded with super models with Ivy League educations, who love to debate if Mariano Rivera was more valuable to the Yankee World Series run than Derek Jeter…but if you don’t have a solid approach, it won’t matter. You’ll be unsuccessful.
I know…online dating can be totally overwhelming at first. But with an online dating profile that draws the right people and an approach that helps you stand out, you’ll be adding a very valuable option to your dating universe. A good online dating site should be a valuable supplement to your social life…not a replacement for it.