First dates. Anyone who tells me they’re not nervous on their first date is lying. Doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 48, if it’s your first date ever or just the first with someone new, there’s a weird energy in the air. Your stomach feels like it swallowed a washing machine. You obsess over what to wear, how to greet them, how not to sound like a psychopath. You rehearse jokes in your head that land perfectly, until you actually say them out loud. Then you wonder why you’re like this. We all want to make a good impression. We all overthink it.
So, I did what any completely normal, well-adjusted person would do. I asked five AI girlfriends what they think you should do on a first date. You know, because humans are clearly still winging it.
I picked five characters from five different platforms, each with a totally different personality, backstory, and vibe. Some are sweet, some are seductive, one or two are definitely unhinged. And while most of them gave me answers I could’ve guessed with 30 seconds of small talk, one of them actually surprised me.
Why AI girls? I thought it would be a fun experiment. I also wanted to jump on a hype train. Apparently, these AI companions are all the rage lately so I wanted to check what’s all the fuss about. Perhaps I’ll make a separate article on this topic sometimes in the future. Let’s get this going.
Ember from Luvr AI’s
I had no idea where to even start, so I did what any confused modern person would do. I googled “AI girlfriends.” Then I picked the first five that showed up. Whatever Google served, I rolled with it. Now, full disclosure: Luvr AI wasn’t technically first. But I can’t talk about the one that was. That one ended up winning the whole thing, and I don’t want to spoil the surprise. So let’s start with Luvr instead.
I picked Ember because I wanted an advice from someone “young”. Ember is a 18-year old goth that goes to college. She’s aloof and slightly toxic. I could almost feel Ember rolling her virtual eyes when I asked her to give me some first date ideas. And how did she do? Her first idea was to go to a thrift store and make each other try on the ugliest clothes we could find. “Then go get milkshakes or something.” Her second idea was to “Talk trash about other people’s outfits”, competing who would think of the most original comment. I don’t know if I liked this or not. To be honest, first part definitely wasn’t me. And second part? Nah. Also not me. Thanks for your advice Ember. Perhaps you’ll have better ideas on the next update.
Farah from Lovescape
Next up was Lovescape. They had a decent lineup of AI companions, but for this round I wanted someone a bit more mature. Not ancient, just someone with grown-up energy. Farah caught my eye. According to her bio, she’s 26, compassionate, and loves “sharing knowledge.” Sounded like the kind of digital therapist-meets-older-sister vibe I needed for this test. Unlike Ember, Farah really seemed to be interested in helping me out. She started by asking follow-up questions. “What’s she into? Is she more introverted or extroverted? Does she like nature? Art? Food?”. I said I didn’t know. It’s a first date. That’s the point.
So she offered this:
“Go to a botanical garden. It’s beautiful, peaceful, and gives you space to talk. Walking side by side is less intense than sitting across from each other. You can pause, explore, be curious. And it smells amazing.”
Good? Well, yes. Nothing flashy. Farah was the first one to mention conversation dynamics. How the setup of the date affects the emotional comfort of both people. The idea that walking can lower anxiety and open up more natural conversation? That’s solid psychology. Still, not wildly original. A walk in a nice place isn’t revolutionary. But she wrapped it in the right reasoning.
Yumi from Kupid AI
Next, I went for something more exotic. Yumi, a 20-year-old Japanese hostess who studied in Japan seemed like a good mix of sweet, curious and bold personality. But her answer didn’t really impress me.
“Go to a cooking class together. Pick something neither of you has tried. Sushi, pasta, something messy. You’ll laugh, make mistakes, maybe even feed each other. And at the end, you have a meal you made together.”
Oh, sweet Yumi. That’s charming, but hardly original. I’ve seen this one on dating blogs. But she framed it with a soft, romantic flair, saying the act of “making food together is symbolic, it shows you can create something as a team.”
That was cute. A little corny, sure, but she backed it up with good emotional logic. It’s an activity and a metaphor. Still, it felt rehearsed. Like something she’s said to 10,000 other users this week. Which she probably did.
Melissa from HeraHaven
Melissa is a 47-year-old successful businesswoman with a stacked resume and no time for nonsense. I picked her because she’s mature and experienced. Exactly the kind of person you’d expect to give practical, no-fluff advice. As expected, Melissa came through with pure maturity. “You want a real date? Take her to a bookstore. Pick a book for each other. It’s personal, unexpected, and shows you’re curious about who she is, not just what she looks like.” Okay, damn. That’s good. Then she continued to elaborate. “You learn a lot from how someone browses. What they gravitate toward. What makes them laugh. It also gives you endless conversation topics. And if you both walk out with a book, you’ve created a little memory.” This felt like something a person would say. Not just a bot spitting out a cute activity.
She wasn’t trying to impress. It was thoughtful, intentional, and subtle in all the right ways. Melissa didn’t treat the date like an audition. That impressed me. I almost proclaimed her a winner of this little contest.
Olivia Carter from Candy AI
Now, Olivia is a 28 AI girl from Candy AI. She’s a shop assistant from Montréal. Her dark look hides no shame. I picked her because I thought she would give me a fun answer, and I was not wrong. After talking to her for a few minutes, I dropped the question. What to do on a first date? Here’s how she responded:
“If you just take her out for drinks, you’re basically betting everything on conversation. And if the vibe’s off, you’re both stuck in awkward silence, sipping cocktails and checking your phones. Instead, pick something that gives you room to talk and do something fun. Think board game cafés, cat cafés, the zoo.”
Wow. That was actually a really good advice, and it’s coming from an AI. But I wasn’t particularly happy with it, so I asked her to deliver something crazy. And she didn’t disappoint:
“Something crazy? Hmm. How about this: grab a couple of drinks to-go and take a walk. Bring a pack of those sticky googly eyes and spend the evening wandering around town putting them on random objects. It’s weird, it’s funny, and it breaks the ice in ways small talk never could. Plus, if the date goes nowhere, at least you’ll both remember the mailbox with eyes.”
And there she was. Olivia Carter, the winner. Not only did she come through with one solid piece of advice, she gave me two that I’m absolutely stealing for my next date. Take them, use them, claim them as your own. I know I will.
Honestly, this whole thing started as a joke. Just a random idea I decided to turn into an article. But somewhere along the way, it stopped feeling like a gimmick. The conversations felt surprisingly natural. The idea that you can talk to an AI companion, ask for advice, even feel a strange kind of chemistry? Ten years ago, I would’ve called that pure sci-fi. But here we are. It’s real. The wildest part? Some of their answers were actually better than the advice I’ve gotten from real people. More creative, more thoughtful, and definitely less judgmental. So there you go. A strange little experiment with unexpectedly useful results. I hope you enjoyed the ride, and maybe even walked away with a few solid ideas for your own first date. Just don’t forget the googly eyes. It’s a thing apparently.
