There’s nothing more exciting than starting a new relationship. After all, finding a love connection isn’t easy, and despite the technological “advancements” in the dating field (dating websites, apps, online subreddits) it can be tough to get a good thing going. Unfortunately, as exciting as a new romance can be, it can also turn frustrating, sour, and excruciating at the drop of a hat. To that end, we’re here to hand down some hard-earned advice, and analyze three pitfalls that can wreck even the most promising new flirtation –– so that you can achieve relationship bliss!
Money Troubles
People hate talking about how much money they make. Indeed, you can bring up almost any subject with someone and not create the same sort of awkwardness that follows a question about finances. Obviously, you want to get to know your new partner better. And naturally, that can lead you into some fraught conversations about politics, religion, etc. However, there’s just something particularly tricky about the subject of money. Furthermore, lending or spending big amounts of money for the sake of a new love is an activity that should set alarm bells ringing.
Speed is Your Enemy
Every relationship –– romantic or otherwise –– needs time to grow and evolve. That’s why rushing into things with a person you don’t know all that well can lead to disaster and wreck a promising relationship before it has a chance to begin. Activities like taking long trips with each other (let alone moving in together) put burgeoning connections under unnecessary tension. Even though it may be difficult, resist the urge to put your relationship in the fast lane. Otherwise, you could end up paying for it (in more ways than one)!
Unnecessary Risks
We men enjoy taking risks; it’s a part of our nature and it drives us forward. Still, that very impulse to roll the dice and take a chance can get us in big trouble from time to time. One area you never want to take a risk on is your sexual wellness. STDs are a delicate subject to bring up with any partner (especially a new one) and even precautions like condoms don’t prevent the possibility of infection completely. Nevertheless, pursuing honest and open dialogue with a new paramore is vital to everyone’s sexual health. What’s more, it’s never a bad idea to visit a local testing center to get tested for STDs. This is particularly pertinent for people who’ve engaged with multiple partners over a short period of time.
The Bottom Line
Nobody’s perfect, and it’s unlikely that you’ll ever find a “dream” partner. After all, mistakes are part of the dating game. What makes a relationship successful often isn’t avoiding common pitfalls and errors, but finding someone who can overcome them with you. The sooner you realize your new significant other isn’t beyond making the odd mistake or two, the better your relationship will be in the long run.
