Long distance relationships? Good idea? Bad idea? Just Plain crazy? Regardless of what you think, we live in the age of the internet and people are meeting online a lot more frequently resulting in a lot more couples being in long distance relationships. Of course not all long distance relationships are started via the internet but in today’s world, they are maintained and strengthened by technologies such as e-mail, text messages, and video chats. And the numbers don’t lie with statistics proving that long distance relationships are very prevalent in our society with 10% of marriages in the U.S starting off from afar.
The increased use of technology has contributed to a rise of 30 percent more people being in long distance relationship’s with results in an increase of nearly 900,000 between the years 2000 and 2005. And the this trend only continues to grow. It’s not only new relationships that begin online that cause LDR’s. There is a growing trend of married couples living separately especially newlyweds as statistics show that 1 in 10 newlywed couples are in long distance relationships.
It is true that in some cases absence makes the heart grow fonder but is it also a case of out of sight, out of mind? With technologies like Skype and various Phone applications, it’s very easy to communicate and see your partner on a regular basis. We can also say that it is the longing for someone that keeps the romance alive and the love grows and grows. After a certain time though the love stagnates and starts to wither away so it is never a good idea to have a long distance relationship for too long. With all this in mind, we’ll go over a few basic tips on maintaining a healthy Long Distance Relationship.
Tips To Maintain a Healthy Long Distance Relationship
Expectations & Results
This one is the very first tip and should be a no brainer as it will help you avoid heartaches and stress. Make sure both of you are on the same page the beginning and looking for the same end result …which is being together as a couple in person. If you happen to meet somebody online, make sure they are as serious about the relationship as you are. The last thing you want is to get strung along for months on end and they end up not wanting to meet you in person or decide this whole thing was a bad idea.
Use the Phone
The commercials for phones these days point out every single feature possible except for the main function it was built for and that is to talk. If you’re in a long distance relationship, you need to reserve some time in your day to talk to your partner whether it’s for a few minutes or a few hours. I’ve had weeks where I would speak on the phone every single day and then weeks where we only speak once or twice a week. Just make sure you voice chat here and there, it’s nice to know your significant other is a real person and not just a contact on your phone that responds to your questions via text. If that’s what you’re looking for, you can always build a relationship with Apple’s SIRI.
A good trick in keeping things interesting is by doing sweet gestures. For me, I have sent gifts of various things that she likes or things that I like and are not available to her. I have also received gifts from her and it’s a pretty nice feeling. Another nice gesture which may sound corny but women like is to send them some romantic songs. Of course I haven’t gone to that level but it’s a suggestion for those who may be a bit more on the romantic side.
Do Activities “Together”
Hey, it’s only distance. There is plenty to do together even if they are thousands of miles away. For myself, I play games such as “Scramble With Friends” and “Draw Something”. These activities will definitely bring out your inner child and you’ll both have a laugh about how terrible you did in the game.
Make Your Time Together Count
Depending on how far apart you are, it is possible you get to see your partner every month or so. The limited time you do spend together, make sure you don’t sit around at home doing nothing (unless that’ what you prefer). Go out and enjoy whatever your city has to offer you. It’s nice to have some fun dates planned which involve a picnic at the park or somewhere outside of the city.
At the end of the day, a relationship is made up of the small things, their warm breath on your neck, smelling their unique scent, getting a comforting embrace and even sharing a knowing look, makes all the difference in the world. Nothing beats having your love with you in person and feeling that content feeling. These are just a few of our tips and I’m sure the list could go on and on. If you have any tips to share, let us know in the comments field below.