Top 4 Ways to Boost Your Confidence and Libido

It’s almost time to say goodbye to February, so we are wondering if you kept your New Year’s resolutions to get healthy and fit. It’s right about now when the gym starts to thin out and our excuses increase. It’s hard to stay motivated when the weather is crap and we expected to have some profound transformation at the new year. You may also have noticed your libido has taken a dip along with your motivation. 

Many factors contribute to a strong libido, but a healthy lifestyle and state of mind are the top reasons why you can go all night or can’t be bothered. Feeling inspired and motivated isn’t an easy task, so today we share out top four ways to give your confidence — and libido — a boost. 

Hit Reset on Your Lifestyle

The new year is usually the time of year when people commit to change their lifestyle to a healthier one. But there is no better time than the present to overhaul your everyday habits. We all know a healthy lifestyle leads to a reduction in disease and an increase in energy. This, coupled with maintaining a healthy weight, is the key to a quality sex life. We are what we eat, so do an inventory of your diet and make some changes.

You can start small by adding more high-fibre vegan meals each week, slowing down on the after-work drinks and trying to exercise at least four times per week. If you don’t have time to cook, consider getting a meal delivery service to help out. And if you aren’t motivated to go to the gym, hire a personal trainer for a month to get you started on a program you can easily commit to the rest of the year. We promise you that living a healthy lifestyle doesn’t have to be a drag!

All plant foods are going to increase libido because the high fibre content is good for your heart and blood circulation. The penis is like any other organ, it needs blood flow to perform, so stock up on these foods that are known to increase libido:

  • Watermelon
  • Avocado
  • Banana
  • Pine nuts
  • Broccoli
  • Onion family
  • Figs

Get Help from a Specialist

Erectile dysfunction — when you have a problem holding an erection —  is a normal thing that affects 39% of men in their lifetime. Unfortunately, it can crush your confidence besides causing stress in the bedroom. If you’ve done number one on our list and your libido is still low, consider seeing a qualified doctor for Erectile Dysfunction treatment. If you are over forty years old, there could be health issues like high blood pressure, diabetes, a heart condition or low testosterone that could affect your libido and erection. It wouldn’t hurt to see a specialist and get a physical and blood work to make sure everything is in tip-top shape. Or your issues could be affected by your psyche, which leads us to our next tip.

Reduce Stress by Talking It out

Men are not encouraged to talk about their feelings and you might even be afraid of therapy. But you’ll be amazed at how much relief can come from talking about everyday fears, issues, and trauma with a therapist. All this stuff can easily affect our sexual desire and libido. A therapist can help you see what is holding you back from being a stud in the bedroom. You might be tempted to solve this little problem on your own, but we encourage you to give therapy a chance. 

Quit the Negative Self-Talk

You can be your own worst enemy when it comes to self-confidence. If you tend to talk down to yourself, it’s time to stop! You perpetuate negativity and stress every time you curse at yourself for doing something “wrong”. And if you are feeling negative about yourself, of course, it will impact your libido and sexual desire. Consider keeping a journal where you write down your victories and successes each day. It might feel awkward at first, but if you focus on your positive traits and achievements, you’ll get an instant confidence boost. We aren’t talking about being egotistical here. Guys, you might just need a lesson in self-love and appreciation to get that libido revved and ready.




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