Getting Engaged? Read This!

It’s that time of year again and, as everyone knows by now, my special someone finally proposed marriage. I was beginning to wonder if my ever-so-organized beloved would ask me to marry him, but I’m engaged at long last!

These words aren’t a complaint of any sort because I’m old enough to understand the importance of waiting until things are right. Marriage isn’t a love affair that starts and quickly ends. Two people who decide to get married must have an inkling of each other’s character. They must know each other and desperately want each other’s happiness. Patience is ever so important sometimes…

Big Decisions

For me, marriage means placing my life in another person’s hands. Our relationship means that we make all the important decision together. Now, one of the most important decisions is finding wedding jewelry that we both love—and at a price we can afford. Vashi.com is an example of an online wedding jewelry resource we checked out.

I don’t like to think of myself as a materialist, and I hope you don’t either. But I’d be lying if I said that having the diamond engagement ring I’ve dreamed of my entire life isn’t important.

I’m not one of those girls who says, “Darling, a gold wedding band is quite enough.” Does that make me shallow?

Love Symbols

No, of course not. Psychologists around the world realize the importance of symbols in daily life. Our relationship is something we’ve both built. We’ve invested time—along with laughter and some tears—in getting things right. We’re proud of the steps we’ve taken to grow up together. Gratefully, growing up also allowed us to understand we can’t live without each other.

I’ve learned so much about him that makes me smile sometimes. For instance, I didn’t know how important having a house was to him when we first met. I thought we’d both be happy as merry troubadours forever, renting an apartment or house wherever life takes us. (We love to travel and my job as a financial analyst as taken us to some great locations around the world.) Fortunately, I learned that my husband-to-be wants a house where we will raise our four children. This home will be a constant in life!

Imagine the stretch marks!

I must admit, though, his dream about our home is very nice. Security is wonderful, because so many of my friends don’t understand that we won’t be twenty-eight forever.

So, he wants a house—and isn’t content with a fixer-upper. We’re saved and invested. We’ve gone without new designer clothes for three years…I even cut my own hair and nobody seemed to notice.

Now I want a two-carat engagement ring that tells the world, “Somebody loves me, and love him so much that I don’t care what my feminist Aunt Linda thinks about my engagement ring!” Austerity isn’t becoming to my vision of the future.

Ethical Diamonds

Of course, buying the cheapest diamond in terms of dollars and cents is not the most important item on our diamond purchase check list. My friends know I’ve researched and investigated every aspect of how to buy a diamond over the past two years. Now, as I’ve already shared about why diamond quality and how to buy a diamond (in terms of carat weight, cut, clarity, and color) are important, I understand the importance of buying a conflict-free diamond.

Why is that, you ask? You say, “A diamond is a rock, and what does a rock know about conflict?”

Well, my answer is simple: We want a conflict-free diamond because both my special someone and I believe that thoughts are things.

There, I’ve said it. I also believe that tangibles, whether it’s the home we live in or a diamond worn on my hand, can resonate…That is why our diamond must come from the right resource.

That resource is Vashi.com, whose diamonds are sourced only from conflict-free professional diamond trade members. They don’t buy conflict diamonds—those mined, cut, or polished in socially questionable or environmentally irresponsible ways. Their longstanding relationships are relied upon to deliver some of the world’s most beautiful and completely conflict-free gemstones.

Invest in Your Love

My special someone and I have a vision of our future, and we believe that some things are investments in each other’s happiness. Granted, I’m sure he would balk if I asked for a sixteen place-setting service of antique sterling silver, but he is very much in tune with what he says is “doing things right” before the wedding and every day after that.

Buying a woman the engagement ring and wedding jewelry of her dreams is important. Some couples decide to finance “the ring” because it is so important to them.

I say “Bravo!”

Leave me a comment if you’re getting engaged and let’s compare all the reasons why buying a significant engagement ring (or an upgrade to your existing ring) is the way things are supposed to be!