A while back I found out that I was going to be the best man at a close friend’s wedding. We go way, way back.
I was honored and excited to hear the news, but also a little nervous. You see, I’m losing my best man cherry, so to speak. I’ve only been to a handful of weddings, and I’ve never had to do anything really, save for eating and enjoying myself. But this time… this time it’s my job to make sure the best man has an awesome time.
In less than three months I’ll need to come up with an awesome bachelor party, and an even better speech. As I’m sure you can appreciate, I’ve been thinking about this a lot. What goes into an awesome bachelor party? What makes a great speech? Everyone seems to have an opinion on both counts. Spots like Buck’s Party Ideas are… inspiring (more on that later), but an event of this magnitude still needs a personal tough. The same goes for the speech, but I’l be covering that more in depth in a later article.
An Unforgettable… or Very Forgettable, Night
So, what makes a good bachelor party? Here are my thoughts…
A while back I wrote an article about buying good gifts for people. I encourage you to read it, as I think it’s useful for more than just buying gifts, but the short version is that just getting “something” for someone isn’t good enough.
I’ve had these elaborate ideas for my friend bachelor party… everything from flying him and our friends for a crazy weekend in Las Vegas (he nixed that one), to flying the group out to Australia to partake in a Bucks cruise in Sydney.
A bit too much? Maybe, but he’s important to me, and besides, I’ve never done this before.
So, what does gift buying have to do with bachelor parties? Well, I think they share one important quality: they both require genuine thoughtfulness and effort to be good. To put it another way, it’s very easy to buy a bad gift, or plan a bad bachelor party. Strippers and cheap booze are the easy out on both counts, and don’t get me wrong, they can be fun… but if that’s the whole story then I’m sorry, you’re probably not a very good friend.
No, for my buddy it’s high end strippers and “the good stuff” only. If your friend is truly important to you, you’ll put in the effort. After all, and with a little luck, this will be the only bachelor party he ever has.
Better make it memorable… or not.