I’m a man. I watch the Knicks vs. The Heat instead of the Oscars. I leave the seat up unless I have a date coming over. I also know that karma counts and you want all of the brownie points you can possibly gather in the dating world whether you believe in God, Buddha, Mother Nature or worship the eternal spirit of Abe Vigoda. So here are a few key tips to keep you on the right side of the Big Guy upstairs’ ledger.
Have an edge but don’t be a douche bag.
Men often confuse creating a sense of intrigue in women with being a jerk. Demeaning women to get them to like you may help you “score” with some low hanging fruit with equally low self esteem, but come on dude…aim a little higher. A woman that is attracted to you because you talk down to her is going to have some major issues and all signs point to the fact that she will create some major issues for you too down the road. The bright side is maybe she could refer you to a good therapist.
If you’re not into it…be honest about it.
We’ve all found ourselves in those situations where a woman is a lot more into you than you are into her. It may be tempting to string her along or treat her as a back-up option but I urge you not to take this approach. If a woman really has genuine feelings for you and you aren’t feeling it, then let her go. Let her be pursued by someone that will be excited to have found her. I guarantee you that at some point the shoe will be on the other foot when you will be pursuing a woman that isn’t that into you and you’ll appreciate this act of kindness.
Own your choice.
If you set a date with someone you met online or through a friend and you can see from the moment you arrive that she’s not for you, suck it up and respect her time. Hopefully you haven’t arranged for this to be a full on dinner date or extended commitment (if you are a My Online Dating Consultant client I can be certain you didn’t make this crucial error), so you can sit down and spend an hour chatting with her. View it as an opportunity to learn about a new cool thing to go to in town or maybe even a business connection to be had. When the date is done avoid leading goodbyes like “I’ll call you” or “See you soon”. Instead respectfully go with “it was nice meeting you” and the message will be clear in a tasteful manner.
These short tips won’t guarantee you a place in Dating Heaven, but when it’s all said and done you have to decide what kind of a man you want to be. By being a straight up man who is confident and aware of your impact on others, you will feel better about yourself and that will only make you more attractive to the ladies.