Confidence in the bedroom can be both physical and psychological. Most of the time, sexual confidence can be solved through experience and repetition. After all, if you do something for a long enough time, you eventually become good at it… right? For others, confidence is but a state of mind. They tend to read self-help books, while others try meditation to fix their shortcomings. Others still, seek out advice columns on magazines or online.
Everyone has their own method to gain (and maintain) confidence in their most intimate moments. The key is finding what works for you, since it can be different for everyone.
A Hard Obstacle
There are many ways to overcome any confidence problems in the bedroom.
Some do endurance exercises to stop themselves from becoming easily fatigued. The act of sex is a surprisingly active workout. Sex burns about 3.6 calories per minute. Your heart rate can reach upwards of a hundred as you climax. For those who rarely exercise, it can be a problem keeping up with your partner. In fact, it can even be a problem keeping up with your own desires. The saying “the mind is willing, but the flesh is weak” comes to mind.
For you (and your partner) to enjoy it, you have to take some extra effort on your own body. Simply running or jogging regularly can increase your endurance – both inside and outside the bedroom.
Coming to the Conclusion
Others, on the other hand, may prefer using toys to add flavor (and duration) during intercourse. These can include a variety of sex toys such as vibrators, strap-ons, or even penis extenders. Yes, it is limited to your imagination. Some of these toys and accessories can provide you with a second wind, while others can make the bedroom more interesting. Another alternative is with the use of lubricants or the condom’s quality itself. These can be for you or your partner – all you have to do is to communicate openly. A clear understanding of the likes, dislikes, and needs can increase confidence greatly.
After all, if you cannot be honest or direct with your partner, who can you talk to about it?
Getting the Tools for the Job
Those looking to purchase merely have to check around. Sex shops in your area are a good place to start. However, depending on your geography, that may not be possible. Places that are more conservative tend to look down on these establishments. Therefore, you are less likely to find these shops in areas with more conservative views.
Alternatively, you may feel embarrassment with the idea of going into one. Maybe the mere idea of browsing at a real shop can unnerve you. Either way, going online can solve your problems. Online shopping has a ton of benefits, including anonymity, price comparison, more options, and yes, delivery to your doorstep. These online shops are usually very discreet when it comes to your privacy. Because of smartphones and internet connectivity, all you need is a click away.