Changes always take place in the course of the partnership. The couple masters many of them together. But what if a partner embarks on a spiritual inner quest? It can be a disruptive factor in the relationship, but it can also be an opportunity. Can the search for spirituality destroy the partnership?
Often it is women who at some point in life seek a higher meaning in existence. Sometimes this search ends in spirituality or esotericism. The paths that are followed are many and varied. It can be a Reiki course, a spiritual workshop or an esoteric seminar that provides the answers you are looking for. If this path is followed intensively, the relationship can change and lead to a crisis. Because the other partner cannot understand what you are looking for. The search for spirituality is not an issue for him. He can’t empathize with you and doesn’t understand why this is important to you. As long as the spiritual growth is marginal, everything should be fine. However, when the search becomes an important thing in life, the partnership is also affected.
When life goals change
But not only the relationship to money has changed. Your job no longer makes sense either. Maybe you want to get out of the system? Or are you planning a trip around the world? Your partner just looks on in horror when they hear these plans. The rates for the house must be paid. And that is only possible if you keep your job. The first dispute is now within reach. The life goals are not the same as before.
In order to avoid discussions, you are less and less at home in your free time. You are now spending your time with like-minded people or attending spiritual seminars to delve deeper into the matter. At home, are you just bored with your husband because he thinks a little primitive in your eyes? Somehow you also feel like a chosen one who has now connected the hot wire to the universe. In addition, there are no more common activities and life goals. And no one is listening when you share your latest spiritual discoveries, you think.
Over time, your inner realizations seem to become clearer and clearer. And that affects not only your thinking, but also the way you live. The question of who do you live with is also examined. You might get the idea that your partner seems incredibly distant mentally. And sometimes you have the thought that the partner no longer suits you. Check all aspects again before terminating the partnership. It is possible to love one another and have a partnership even if one of the partners has a different philosophy. Discovering your own spirituality is not a reason to end the relationship.
Understanding and tolerance for spirituality and those who think differently
It’s not just about you and your spiritual quest. And not everyone has to try to understand just you. You also have to accept that your partner does not want to align with your philosophy and spirituality. Remind yourself that in the past you and your partner had the same priorities. It should therefore be easy for you to understand. This also applies to your partner. Presenting spirituality and esotericism as nonsense is the wrong way to go. He too has to develop the tolerance that this is your path, even if he does not understand it. Understanding and tolerance for spirituality and those who think differently is necessary to save the relationship.
The partner on the spiritual search must not forget everyday life
Although discovering your spirituality requires a lot of attention, it is important not to forget everyday life. If the relationship is to stay harmonious, it is also important to be interested in the duties of everyday life. Your partner’s hobbies are not unimportant either, they are part of your life together. Likewise, the partner should at least try to understand your motivations.
And sometimes it’s really funny when you include him. Explain the tarot cards to your partner, but don’t take them too seriously. Try to bring some more ease, fun, attention, and interest. Maintaining shared hobbies can also be a way to maintain bonds and communication.
Asking questions – getting answers
If you don’t ask questions, you won’t get an answer! Ask each other how you are feeling about the situation, what you are missing or what can be done better together. The partner who has nothing to do with spiritual things should first ask questions. What are you looking for in this philosophy? What are you missing in your life. Only if your partner understands you in your search can they perhaps understand what spirituality is giving you.
Be careful with hasty decisions
You may feel completely out of place with everyday life at the start of your new life. The desire to break out of the partnership can be strong. The feeling that everything feels wrong can also arise. But be careful of hasty decisions like a breakup. Maybe you will regret it a few months later.
It is better to first give yourself the time to get to know your new philosophy intensively. It often turns out that the initial euphoria subsides over time. Sometimes a spiritual path is even let go completely because it wasn’t what you hoped for. In some cases, even your partner will enjoy discovering new philosophers or spirituality. Either way, give yourself time to gather your thoughts before you panic and end the relationship. This also applies to your partner. Maybe he wants the old version of your personality back. But first he should stay calm. Often everything returns to a level that everyone involved can live with.
Do not judge spirituality
There is no better version of life. Even if you feel like you’ve found the formula for life. Your partner thinks the same. Reason and reality are tangible to him and something he can rely on. Before the big discussions begin, decide together that no one will judge the other by their inner attitude. Acceptance is important – without it, a harmonious partnership will not work under these difficult conditions.
When spirituality finds its way into a partnership, it can destroy it. But many things can also change and be put into perspective again. The fact is that we all have to meet the demands of everyday life. Even those who feel spiritually enlightened. If the couple treats the problem together with lots of love, you will have the chance to achieve inner growth. This is good for both partners.
The author El Maya is a spiritual medium, life coach and karma expert. She has published several books about soul, life plan and mental health. This guide literature contains strategies to reduce your karma and find the soul center. She also gives workshops in spirituality, astrology, growth and karma analysis.