Dating sites – the potential dream come true for many guys surely? Thousands of local women looking for the same thing as you – perfect. A huge choice of women of all ages and different circumstances looking for love and, seemingly paying for the privilege of finding a guy. Easy pickings you would think? But before dashing to your wallet to get your credit card and sign up perhaps a few pieces of advice.
Why are you joining a dating site?
The first thing to consider is why are you wanting to use a dating site in the first place? For sure many guys are actually looking for long term love and romance but the harsh reality is that most of the guys on dating sites are players, looking for a little extra marital fun. The girls know this so that’s your first challenge. But read on, there’s more.
Joining a dating website is purposely very easy. A few tick boxes and you are ‘live’. I am a man, looking for a woman, postcode, all fine so far. E-mail address, submit and within minutes you will be chatting away to some sexy bored ladies looking for attention… In your dreams.
Endless Data and Bots on Dating Sites.
Firstly the dating site has your holy grail – your email address and by clicking on submit you already agreed they can do whatever they want with it. So, after receiving your first few “sexy Sally from Stevenage wants to chat’ type automated messages you are then prompted to fill out your profile in order to attract more ‘views’. In for a penny in for a pound at this stage so you add your hair colour – if you have any, eye colour, body shape – we are all average on these sites, hobbies, ideal date bla bla. Then,when you are all set and ready to talk to all these hot and steamy ladies guess what – you have to upload your picture. Fake it or real? Up to you, just get a damned picture live and get to the girls.
So, all uploaded and finally live you start to browse a few profiles. So far so good. Send out a few messages “Hi there, looking good” sort of thing that’s certain to attract their attention and get them steamy. Then suddenly your inbox is being bombarded with hot girls wanting to chat. Perfection, other than to be able to read them you need to get that credit card out and sign up. Dare you? Will the wife find out? Too many messages to ignore and too many opportunities to chase you punch in your card details, little realising that the processing company in Asia are impossible to contact and even harder to cancel recurring payments in many months time.
So now you are a fully paid up member. Live and active and can begin the interminable trawl to see which profiles are genuine and which are plants. A great rule of thumb – the e pretty girls are not genuine and don’t answer. The desperate looking ones may hound you. Be warned.
Success rates of actually contacting a like minded girl from a dating site are low. If you do manage to strike up a conversation with someone that you actually like the look of then you to prove your pictures are real and that indeed you are single. Good luck.
And when you are three months into your membership and pulling your hair out trying to cancel the payment, not to mention an in-box full of junk emails from sites they have shared your data with you wonder if it was all worth it.
Dating Site Alternatives
So what’s the alternative? You could always browse an escort agency website. Choose a girl who matches exactly what you are looking for. No interminable chat pretending to be looking for your dream life partner. Arrange to book the girl for an hour or two. Withdraw some cash and pay her an have the time of your life. All within a couple of hours of feeling the need.
Safe, yes, secure, yes, rip off, no, satisfaction, yes. And you can come back time and time again with no pressure or credit card rip offs. Make sense?
Get on the phone and save some money.