Two of my closest friends got married last week, and I was the best man.
This would be unremarkable except for the fact that I had never been the best man before, and had absolutely no idea what my responsibilities were. I had also never planned a bachelor party before, and – as it turns out – that too is the task of a best man. So I hit the Internet and started researching.
Depending on how often you plan bachelor parties, you may have learned – like I did – that just about every bachelor party involves strippers, or at least that’s what the Internet would lead a person to believe. Michael actually wrote about bachelor parties without strippers a while back, which was a great source of ideas, but I wanted to take things a step further and really tailor the experience to my friend.
Please note: there’s absolutely nothing wrong with hitting up the local peelers, but please don’t make that the focus of your evening; I mean, unless the groom really wants that, of course.
Instead, start thinking about what some of his favorite activities are, and make that the focus of the evening. In my friend’s case, he loves shooting guns, so I booked our party a private room at the gun range, complete with instructors and of course, an insane amount of high-powered handguns and shotguns. When you tailor the evening towards the groom, you may piss off some of the people attending (they may not like shooting, golfing, or scuba diving), but you know what? The evening isn’t about them, and your goal is to make sure the groom has an amazing night.
Make sure to get your focus activity in first, as it’s probably best that people aren’t drunk when they’re shooting guns or driving go-karts. As appealing as that may sound, just trust me on this one… it’s a bad idea.
Once you’ve finished up with the non-drinking activities, it’s time to set a drinking foundation for the rest of the evening. That means hitting up a restaurant and getting some food, which is also a perfect opportunity to invite the grooms parents if he so desires. They can stay for the dinner and leave when it comes time to hit the bar.
Now, remember all those times I mentioned strippers earlier? This is where they come into play, providing your buddy wants them. What I did was book a reservation at the strip club (yes… you can do this), and also a spot at a local bar, and left the choice up to him. Strip clubs are wildly entertaining, but if the groom wants to sit and chat with his best friends, they’re not exactly conducive to that.
And that my friends, is how you plan a bachelor party. There’s three components, the main event, a dinner, and then a bar or strip club. It’s simple but effective, and I promise the groom will have a ton of fun. Just don’t be like this guy and you’re golden.